Alas I think after reading this you and I would not be compatible lovers after all, because for me I can’t get off until I have helped, in every way possible way to feel the energy of orgasm flowing through my woman. Sometimes I can’t even get a full erection until I hear the beautiful music of my woman moaning with orgasmic pleasure. We do agree as you wrote; ‘To me, the goal of sex is to connect with my partner, pleasure each other, make each other feel amazing.” I am just not going to let myself cum until she does….at least once.